❤️ MY BIG REVEAL?
Yes, I’ve watched Married at First Sight.
Oh God, I normally stay away from reality TV!
Serves me right. I watched a debacle unfold when someone who was a bit (enormously) surprised about their match smashed someone else to bits.
Tough calls all over the place there.
And I had a reaction to something the Psychiatrist said this week.
She was speaking to the couple that have clearly been paired so well, who have done a lot of their personal work and have a great attitude about what (and how) they can give to each other. She told them they were in their honeymoon period. It’s technically true. But if they took any notice of that, I’d be a bit bothered.
They’re not made of the same stuff she is.
It’s simply not true that you have to go into some kind of prescribed ‘'come down’.
Every moment you have a choice to powerfully engage and raise the situation you’re in if you stay conscious and create together.
Life will throw stuff at you. It’s how you navigate, attach or detach from that, where you take it and what you make it mean that makes the difference.
I can see there is a lot of editing to make the program sensational enough to be entertaining, and there’s enough fear and ‘what can I get from this person?’ And there are a huge load of ghosts. 'Because of how I was treated in the past, I’m going to keep my wall up.’
I think we’ve all had relationships like that - where we wanted love and couldn’t actually clearly feel it through the wall, so had no idea whether we had it or not.
If we can’t open and give it, we’re not open to receive it. And no amount of pushing or trying to make the other person right by changing who they are is fair or likely to improve things.
To be honest, it was a kind of torture for me to watch, but I did as the observer of a social experiment, to see what and how the matches were made.
Relationship work is one of my most joyous ‘jobs’ and I absolutely LOVE setting people free. So I see the trapped, needing to be personally empowered, massive opportunities that are sitting right there in that show.
I REALLY wish they had someone to clear them. It could be a whole other show.
And remembering of course they’re editing for sensational stuff so it would be less compelling viewing if the subjects were all totally happy, this is 100% entertainment, and less % actual match making, I’d love to see the other ones stop making things be mean. Let the drama llama leave the building and bring in more understanding.
I know there’s a chance they can all be free and even more empowered in themselves (let's face it, it's pretty brave to be where they are right now).
Assuming they really do want relationships, they all have a chance if they get the deeper level support, which I’m not seeing in the edited version, (but may be happening in the background).
If both parties are 'in', yes, you can be in love and stay in love - when you understand love is energy and you work WITH, not against, the energy. All that does not seem like love is simply energy asking for love to be uncovered and freed.
Unpacking the ghosts, keeping clear energy, attention and engagement and fully, without reserve, giving to each other, can be an everyday autopilot action, like breathing or jumping in the shower.
When your desire to give love and stay in a love space is greater than your desire to TAKE love AND score points over your partner - when you can chuck the wall out of the window, and your stories (ghosts) are gone - you’re free. Free!
Talking people off their ledges is like chocolate for me. I LOVE seeing relationships fly. YES it can stay amazing.
There are SO many opportunities for growth, SO many for change - it’s mind boggling what can be achieved.
And Yes I’ll watch it again. They get massive points for putting themselves out there.
#MAFS #whatarewemakingitmean #empoweredloveproject
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